Thursday, April 11, 2019

A Critique & Confessional--For Adults Only

Be honest--do you watch porn?
Of course you do!
Maybe not often, but I expect no one has been able to avoid at least trying it!
For me, it began in 1972, when a housemate--a Unitarian minister, no less!!--invited me and my BFF (a girl) to join him in seeing the Marilyn Chambers movie "Behind the Green Door"!
That was my initiation!
He also took me on my first "skinny dipping" adventure!"
Anyway, I've been pondering for awhile whether to write this post!
My blogging reputation is mostly formed from my other blog--Aaron K's Track & Field Record Book"--where I've written nearly 560 posts in just over 5 years!

So yes, I watch "pom"!
I put that word in quotes because I don't like that word to describe movies or "scenes" that show graphic sex acts--in total detail--close up!
I'd call them just "sex scenes"

While I began by watching heterosexual sex movies, I turned to watching mostly lesbian themed movies after seeing the mainstream movie "Lianna" in 1983.
From there, I've been watching mostly lesbian themed movies & sex scenes--particularly after VHS began, then with DVD's, and now on the Internet!
(BTW, I watch MANY other kinds of movies and TV shows, from G-rated to R-rated also!!)

In fact, I've watched so many that I've made lists of my Top 100 Lesbian Themed Movies--and Top 100 Lesbian Sex Scenes!
So I feel I'm qualified to write this critique!i
What's good--and what's bad---about these movies & scenes?
It's only my opinion, but I feel it needs revision--a different vision, if you will!

As with any "art", there are personal tastes & preferences!
To say one prefers lesbian themed scenes & movies is not enough!
For there are excellent examples available, and there are filthy sleazy ones also--which shouldn't have even been made!!

A "sex scene" should be a simulation, a mirror, of "real life"
It should show "real" people making "real" love in "real life situations and venues"!!
It should not be "staged" or scripted!
Sadly, most "porn" is!!

But MY list contains movies & scenes of a higher quality!
And that's why I prefer "homemade" sex scenes with "amateur" participants!
(Why "average" people choose to film themselves having sex is a whole other topic!!)

To begin, "real" love making doesn't begin with your clothes off--in bed--and just seconds from "doing it"
As any romantic person knows, it begins with a "normal" life scene--maybe watching a TV show, reading a book, having dinner or a snack, talking!

Sure, you know you want sex, but you don't want to rush it!
No "Slam, bam, thank you, ma'am's" here, thank you!

So a good sex scene begins with conversation, and not even having to be sexually oriented!
But it soon turns intimate--or fun (with laughter & teasing)!
You'll begin snuggling.
The snuggle will lead to soft caresses, then to a kiss, then a deeper set of kisses!
Then to a hand inside her blouse or sweater, with her hand keeping yours there!

As with words, one touch leads to others!
A suggestion to go to the bedroom, maybe!

Once there, then the clothes come slowly off, and the couple is on their way to bliss, passion, and hopefully, an orgasm or three!!

But there aren't many sex scenes that travel that road!!

No, they BEGIN with the sex!
And the woman wears spiked heels and lacy provocative underwear, and acts "sluttish" and brutally perverse!
Sound good to you?
Well, not to me!

What woman EVER wears spiked heels to bed?
In fact, EVER even wears spiked heels, period??
They normally remove their heels once they leave the restaurant or office and change to more comfortable footwear!
As for going directly to "the actt", have you known many women who preferred that--excepting the advance mutual agreement to have a "quickie"--maybe due to time constraints?
And PLEASE, don't call a woman a "slut", "whore" or a "bitch"--as many "porm" scenes do!!
I'd respect any woman who walked quickly away once called those words!!

As I said, I've watched well over 100 lesbian themed movies and sex scenes!

And the best ones begin with SOME conversation, a story, a plot!
Okay, so the "plot" is so thin as to be almost non-existent!
And the dialogue is so bad as to be embarrassing!

The only sex scenes without any of that are those produced by "Abby Winter", an internet producer of lesbian sex scenes!
But "Abby Winter" doesn't even exist!
No, that's just the name of the company--which, almost perversely, is led by a MAN!!

Yet their films are real!
The orgasms aren't faked!
The women wear no make-up, and NEVER wear heels, let alone spiked heels!
They normally have average size or slightly larger breasts!
Their hair isn't professionally done!

But the sex is beautiful, and the cameras don't enter the picture, leaving the lovers to make love "in private"--or at least you're led to believe they're all alone!
The scenes are filmed in one of the person's real apartments-but you see just one room!
As the company formed in Australia, then moved to Holland, many of the women have accents--from many different countries!

Other scenes I like contain at least 10 to 20 percent talking before the first kiss!
And since I prefer scenes that seem to be "real life", I prefer scenes that last at least 40 minutes!
The longest scene (and it's NOT a movie, even though it lasts over 90 minutes) allows for more talking, more kissing time, more touches, and slower going to the "Big O"!!

They are NOT boring!!
In that scene--oddly titled "Gwendoline and Suzie 1", even though neither woman is named Gwendoline or Suzie!!--and BTW, it actuially lasts 104 minutes, but the final 12 minutes is "back stage", after the scene ends, with the actresses just fooling around!!--a young girl is a freshman at a mid-west college, but was born & raised a Mormon in Salt Lake City!
She rooms in a dorm with a lesbian, who she tells a young beautiful counselor at the school that she brings "girls to the room"  a lot, and it makes her feel guilty, because she listens to them having sex, and finds herself enjoying it!
The counselor--probably not older than 25--tells her it's "normal" for girls to experiment while in college--or throughout life, for that matter!
The talk goes on for a few more minutes, and then the girl starts to leave!
But the counselor had been so friendly and given such good advice and insights, that they became close, even though they'd just met!
The girl suggests they hang out, and the counselor says she'd like that!
Then, after a moment, she asks if she can kiss her!
The girl says she'd like that, and the first kiss leads to a few more!
Then they break away, and realize how far they'd gone!
Not uncomfortable, but not totally "there" yet!
Then the counselor asks if she can kiss her again, and the girl accepts again!
This time, they go farther, unbuttoning blouses, and beginning to get  more erotic and even romantic---until a boy knocks and enters the room!
You only hear him--he's not on camera!
He apologizes and leaves!
The women laugh, a bit startled & embarrassed for being "caught"!
But they'd started something, and so the counselor invites the girl to her on campus apartment the next evening!

Once there--in the kitchen--they know why they're there--to finish what they'd started!

But do they rush into it?
Not exactly!
They go to the bedroom, where many kisses lead to soft tender caresses, more kissing, more touching!
Finally, the clothes come off, and the sex begins!
But in this 90 minute scene, the first orgasm doesn't come (pardon the pun!) until over 40 minutes into it!!

And never does it become "wild" or sleazy in  any way!
(Except maybe for the idea that an "older" professional woman is having sex with an 18 year old student!!)

So if you're into it, look for scenes that don't BEGIN in the bedroom!
And look for scenes where the women don't dress like prostitutes!

They're normal women in normal situations doing normal things!

They don't "f--k" or screw!
They make love--which literally means they CREATE love---or at least loving feelings!

Be picky!
Don't watch "porn" to get your rocks off!
Watch it as you would any other form of visual art!!

Because the best fantasies are those that simulate YOUR own experiences or desires--not some beer bellied MALE producer of SLEAZE!!

Yes, everybody has seen "porn"!
But only in "confessionals" like this do they admit it!!

Without shame or regret!!